Book Review: At What Age Does My Body Belong To Me by Amanda Tayte-Tait

Rape, Abuse, Violence, Mental Health, and Suicide

These are things that drove the writing of this book and these are the things touched upon but in a different way…

First off, this is not the kind of book I usually read. It was an interesting change. I am not sure where I would classify this one under. Let me explain…

I have never met anyone who has tried to commit suicide, let alone tried multiple times. Mia did.

The book is divided into two main parts:

  • Before the suicide attempt and what lead up to it
  • After the attempt and the friends and family that were there but not there..

Amanda tells the story of Mia. What she went through from a young age. Things no child – or anyone for that matter – should have to deal with. Should not have to deal with alone.

What really got to me was instead of talking to Mia, trying to understand what she was going through, her mother decided to dump her on someone else in the gospel of “for your own good”. This is a cop out a lot of African parents take when they are so set in their ways and can’t see another way.

I also noticed something, something very crucial that only happened towards the end. What Mia needed was someone to listen. That’s what we all need sometimes, someone to listen…

Quite a few times when matters of rape, abuse and mental health are talked about it is by people who have never experienced these things. This book is different, it is a first-hand account from the victim’s perspective – that made me connect with her more.

It is a journey, Mia’s journey from wanting to end her life to understanding that no one other than herself was going to look out for her. In that journey, there is a lot to take away regardless who you are.

And also this quote:

 “No one is born ugly, we’re just born in a judgemental society.”

Kim Namjoon

My main gripe with the book is that when she had my full undivided attention and I began to understand the extent of what she went through I am barraged with statistics and facts. However necessary this information may be, it took away from the core of what she intended to say in my opinion.

Am I supposed to give a rating? Do I have to? Okay, I give it a 3.0 for the reasons I have mentioned. Even with that, this is a book everyone should read.

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My Terabithia – Are You Ready For The Next Class?

I held a class where I taught you how to build your innner world, your haven, your Terabithia.

That lesson was held in my Terabithia, but just a small part of it. I thought before I have the next class – which I know a lot of you have been waiting for – I would take you on a tour of the expanse of mine:

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